Wednesday, January 21, 2015

Happy birthday, and stuff

It has been a C-R-A-Z-Y few months for us!

In October, Squish met with her local cardiologist, who determined that she is cleared for 1 year.  That's fantastic news!  He said her murmurs from the two remaining valve issues haven't changed since her first repair in March, which is more than we could have ever hoped for.  God is good, all the time, and all the time, God is good!

We celebrated her birthday a few weeks later than the actual date, at the end of December, so Honey and Bumpa could be here to celebrate with us.  We also applied for a dream cake through the Icing Smiles Foundation (http://www.icingsmiles.org), a foundation that arranges for dream or fun cakes for kids and siblings who have been through significant medical issues.  She was a shoe in, and we were put into contact with Tiffany at Fairy Dust Bakery & Boutique (www.thefairydustbakery.com).

Tiffany came out to deliver Ash's cake, and also brought her a Minnie Mouse t-shirt and bow to go with her theme.  The cake was delicious, and Ash had a fantastic time!






We recently moved to a new church in town.  Caitlyn had been going through some stuff, and the youth group at this new church worked wonders for her.  Rather than worship in different churches, we decided to check the services out, and fell in love with not only the message and the vision, but also the ministries and outreaches.  The transition has been flawless, and it's "home" when we walk into the building each and every time.

I'll keep this post short and sweet.  We've got a lot coming up in the next few weeks.  Jeremy's dad will be in this weekend for a short visit, Jeremy and Cait will be attending a purity ball at the end of the  month, and we are getting involved with the American Heart  Association's "Go Red For Women" campaign in February.

Until next time, -K

Thursday, August 7, 2014

What faith can do.

Life has been slightly crazy with the three kids this summer, from Caitlyn getting stranded in Houston International Airport flying to Milwaukee, Vacation Bible Schools, and just STUFF.  Summer vacation is winding down, and school is about to begin again, so I figured now would be a great time to update the blog.

Jeremy and I were asked to give our faith testimony at a church in our area-that's a HUGE honor, and a daunting task.  Our family and friends are familiar with our journey with Squishy Baby, and this church heard of her fight, and immediately began praying for her, and standing in agreement that God would take charge of her heart, and the repairs would be done. 

Anyway, Jeremy said they wanted to hear about how our faith in God held us and carried us through her diagnosis and first heart repair.  He was asking me which Scriptures we (meaning I) stood on, as his testimony through it all was "God will heal her in His way."  I, on the other hand, found my five Scriptures, and held tight to them.  I blogged about a few of them in January, when I was really struggling with the message of "if you want your healing, believe for it, and claim it."   (http://utphallfamily.blogspot.com/2014_01_01_archive.html)

The beginning of my story is this: "I knew you before I formed you in your mother's womb. Before you were born I set you apart..."Jeremiah 1:5 (NLT).  God knew what the enemy was going to do to Asher before she was born, before I was born.  We know that He couldn't intercede, and prevent it, but He knew that we would be strong enough in faith to handle the news when it came.  I thank Him every day that He chose me to be her mother, and put her in my life, heart condition and all.  Her diagnosis stretched my faith, and I often wonder what could have happened if she had been born to someone with less faith, or less ability to handle this kind of diagnosis.  God knew what He was doing when He sent her to us.

Psalm 127:3 "Children are a gift from the LORD; they are a reward from him." (NLT) 
I know that all my children are gifts.  I also know that as a parent, there is no way I'd give my kids a gift, knowing that if something were to happen, I wouldn't be able or willing to do whatever it took to repair it.  God knew the day would come when we'd learn of Ash's condition, and He was waiting for us to turn to Him so He could work his wonders on her.

Psalm 147:3 "He heals the broken hearts and binds up their sorrows." (Aramaic Bible in Plain English)  At the end of her surgery to repair the Coarctation of the Aorta, I stumbled across a vendor that makes stuffed animals that have the same scars and repairs that the child does, Healing Helpers (www.healinghelpers147.com).  I was not even aware of this verse until I started corresponding with her to order Ash's Helper.  God is in the healing business, still.  Asher may not have had the supernatural healing that we are told we're supposed to believe for, but I know that God gave gifts to the surgeon that operated on her, and all the staff that handled her care, to repair the issue that was life threatening.  That's good enough for me.  There was such a HUGE sigh of relief when she came out of surgery, then absolute wonder when she began to put on weight, and her skin tone turned pink, instead of the pale and ashen tone that she had been leading up to surgery.  There was the emotional healing, too; I was not angry and bitter and scared anymore, and the first time I saw her post-surgery was the last time I cried over her condition.  God had done exactly what we had been believing for-He healed her in His way.

"Even when the sky is falling
I've seen miracles just happen
Silent prayers get answered
Broken hearts become brand new
That's what faith can do"-Kutless








All of Me

We are nearly 5 months post-surgery, and Squishy is doing a phenomenal job recovering.   Within the first 4 weeks post-surgery, she had gained 3 pounds, and grown about 3 inches in height.  She's now hovering around 20 pounds, and she turned 19 months old a few weeks ago.




We saw a new cardiologist, Dr. Kiel, back in April, and we really enjoyed him.  He seemed a bit out there, but he entertained Ash, and by the end of her checkup, she was trying to mimic his Donald Duck impersonation.  We don't go back until mid-October for more tests, including another echo and EKG.  Her last checkup showed a gradient of about 30% in her subaortic membrane, and about a 11% in her mitral valve.  Her coarc has been healing beautifully, and her aortic valve was flowing wide-open on her last echo.


We've been working on settling back into our routines, too. Jeremy came off active duty orders at Barksdale mid-April, and has been back at the S.O. full time since then.  He still does Reserves, for the insurance at this point.  Squish's hospital bills alone for the procedure at Arkansas Children's has totaled well over $120,000.  We paid nothing out of pocket.  Locally, her cardiology appointments and prescriptions have been in the $3,000 range, and we've only paid $100 out of pocket.  We can't afford to give up Tricare, and at this point, I wouldn't want to-it's been such a huge benefit to have it through all of this.


April flew by-we got to experience our first motorcycle officer's rodeo with Jeremy in Texas.  Seeing him ride was incredible!  I've never been more proud, and I got to see how talented he is on his motorcycle.


Cait and Bub are doing well, too.  Bub finished his first year of preschool, and asks at least once a week if today is the day that he gets to go to school.  August can't get here soon enough.   Cait graduated middle school, and has officially moved up to junior high, making the dance team along the way.


 Summer has been off to a busy start for us.  We had Jeremy's mom, step-dad, sister, her husband, and our nieces come down from Milwaukee and spend a few days with us.  I've never been more tired in my life, but I wouldn't trade those 4 days for the world.  It was so fun to see our kids meet their cousins, and have them running crazy in our house, outside, and playing on the inflatable slide.  Bub turned 4 in May, and we had a dinosaur-themed party, again.   The kids have been swimming machines-Ash didn't enjoy it at first, but she's turning into a little water bug, right under my nose.


I haven't been doing as much studying as I would like, but I have been listening to a lot of music at work, and I heard the song "All of Me" by Matt Hammitt the other day.  Oh, my goodness.  He wrote the song when his child was diagnosed with a pretty significant heart defect, and the words just hit home. 


That's pretty much all that has been going on for us.  God's still working His wonders, and He's got big plans for my family.  I can't wait to see what comes next!


-K


"All of Me" by Matt Hammitt


Afraid to love, something that could break
Could I move on if you were torn away?
And I'm so close to what I can't control
I can't give you half my heart and pray He makes you whole

You're gonna have all of me
You're gonna have all of me
'Cause you're worth every falling tear
You're worth facing any fear

You're gonna know all my love
Even if it's not enough
Enough to mend our broken hearts
But giving you all of me is where I'll start

I won't let sadness steal you from my arms
I won't let pain keep you from my heart
I'll trade the fear of all that I could lose
For every moment I'll share with you


You're gonna have all of me
You're gonna have all of me
'Cause you're worth every falling tear
You're worth facing any fear

You're gonna know all my love
Even if it's not enough
Enough to mend our broken hearts
But giving you all of me is where I'll start

Heaven brought you to this moment, it's too wonderful to speak
You're worth all of me, you're worth all of me
So let me recklessly love you even if I bleed
You're worth all of me, you're worth all of me

You're gonna have all of me
You're gonna have all of me
'Cause you're worth every falling tear
You're worth facing any fear

You're gonna know all my love
Even if it's not enough
Enough to mend our broken hearts
But giving you all of me is where I'll start

You're gonna have all of me
'Cause you're worth every falling tear
You're worth facing any fear

You're gonna know all my love
Even if it's not enough
Enough to mend our broken hearts
But giving you all of me is where I'll start
Is where I'll start





Friday, March 21, 2014

This little light of mine

I'll apologize in advance; this blog post may be a taaaad bit on the long side. 

First and foremost, praise be to God for the healing that He has provided for Asher's little heart, and for the protection on her leading up to her surgery.  Her coarctation of the aorta (CoA) was measured at 40-50, possibly 60 percent.  Since the aortic artery is the artery that brings blood to the back and lower extremities, those areas were only getting 40-50, possibly 60 percent of the blood flow they needed.  We weren't aware of how significant her condition is until we went for the MRI on February 28.  They provided us a picture when we were doing our preoperative paperwork and meetings:
See that little area that looks like a balloon's been twisted? Or a sausage link?  That's what she had repaired by thoracotomy.  The official procedure was a "end-to-end anastomosis"; basically, cutting the coarctation out, and reattaching the ends together.  What cardiologists tend to not tell you at diagnosis is this:  the left side of the heart is fickle.  Usually if one problem is diagnosed, more issues are discovered in the treatment of the original problem.  Yay.  We learned this little tidbit on preop day. So, the major issue with Squishy was obviously the CoA. However, she's also got significant stenosis in the sub-aortic valve membrane (gradient is approximately 30%), and mitral valve stenosis (gradient is about 11%).  Obviously, the sub-aortic valve membrane is the next most concerning issue.  We were told that they won't bother with that until the gradient is about 50% or more.  Same with the mitral valve stenosis.  They couldn't tell us if it would be months, years, or decades before she'd need surgical intervention again; our discharge cardiologist said in cases similar to hers, he's seen it progress to needing surgical intervention before school age. 

Anyway, we came home from her MRI on 2/28.  Baby girl was OUT of it the entire 3 1/2 hour drive home.  She spiked a fever the next day, and we were back in the ER locally for a 102 degree fever.  Full workup, X-Ray, all led to a "likely" viral infection. 
We left for Little Rock on 3/2, since she was scheduled for preoperation workup on 3/3, and surgery on 3/4.  Wouldn't you know, Little Rock would get hit with an ice storm after we got in, and the hospital CLOSED on 3/2 (what?! really?!) We got rescheduled for 3/5 and 3/6. 

We made it to preop, and Asher had a ball, after the not-so-fun stuff was done.  The thing I loved about ACH is that when a child walks in, they offer a wagon for the day.  That girl LOVED her wagon rides all day.   
We were nearing the end of pre-op, and our liaison comes in our room and tells us we've been postponed until 3/7; a heart transplant had just become available.  I can tell you, the whole thing felt surreal up to that point.  In the midst of my frustration, it hit home that we were actually getting ready to do this.  In a mere 48 hours, our baby-baby was going to be taken out of my arms, and her heart was going to be operated on.  I nearly lost it. 

Friday rolled around, and we headed to ACH for 5:30 a.m. registration.  Thankfully, Asher had nursed as late as they would allow, and she slept until they started messing with her.  I will NEVER go into another procedure without them giving her "goofy" juice, first.  She got her dose of that, and was a little trip to watch.  Up to this point, she had been crying and screaming when anyone in scrubs would look her way; after that medicine, she was giving the anesthesiologist and his team kisses as they carried her back to the OR. 

They took her back a bit after 7 a.m.  We were then escorted to a family waiting room, where an OR nurse came and updated us on an hourly basis.  The procedure itself got underway about 9:30 a.m.; in addition to the time for sedation and the incision, in order to access the CoA, Dr. Mitchi had to deflate one of her lungs.  She was out by 11:45 a.m., and in recovery.  We finally got to see her at 12:30.  She had been extubated by that point, and was still heavily sedated, but now on morphine. 

In the CVICU-Critical Unit, each child is assigned his or her own nurse, and that stays in the room with her for the entire shift.  Ash's nurses were in awe of her, because she kept rolling over to sleep on her stomach-even when she was dosed up on morphine.  It was such a shock seeing her the first time-tubes and wires and IVs and bandages EVERYWHERE.  She had an oxygen line on her nose, but she pulled it out after 3 hours, and her O2 stats were steady in the high 90s, so the cardiologist said she could keep it out.  As she was waking up, she became very distressed by even her nurse coming near her with a stethoscope; Honey came to the rescue and brought her a doctor's kit.  She gave Daddy a quick check up.  
Due to the severity of her coarc, she was unable to eat or drink anything for 48 hours after surgery.  They had to allow her stomach and intestines to adjust to the amount of blood that was now being pumped into it.  Asher is still nursing; all her doctors recommended that if I was willing to continue at least through surgery, it really would be the best thing to introduce into her stomach post-surgery.  I pumped daily beginning the morning of surgery, and Sunday morning, she had her first 2 ounces of expressed milk.  She took that like a champ, kept it down, and was given the clearance to nurse again.  50 hours post surgery she was off the morphine, had her Foley cath removed, her chest tube was removed, her bandages were removed, all but one IV was removed, and she was off ALL blood pressure medicine!
Finally, we got to move to the step-down unit.  The staff brought her a wagon, and she began her campaigning for "Miss Cardiology".  We would pull her around, and she'd give her little pageant queen wave, and would blow kisses to all the staff and families.  She had them all in stitches with her cabbage patch hat!
At ACH, the staff participates in  a "Beads of Courage" campaign.  On the cardio floor, patients earn a bead for each procedure they have done, and can string them together on a lanyard.  The beads and lanyard go home with the patient when they are discharged, as a reminder of their story at ACH.  We haven't put Ash's together yet, but she got to choose her discharge bead for herself, and she chose the biggest, loudest, most obnoxious bead in the box!  

On 3/11, four days after surgery, Asher was discharged.  It was a GREAT day-70 degrees, sunny, and best of all, our little warrior RAN out of that hospital!  She came home on one medication, Lasix, a diuretic.  We followed up with her local cardiologist, who gave her the "all clear" to venture out in public, using common sense, and did a thorough work up.  Her chest Xrays were clear, her EKG was perfect, and her blood pressure was 92/62-within the preferred range!  He does want to continue to see her every 4-6 weeks to monitor her valve issues.

That's her journey, in a nutshell.  She has bounced back beautifully, and her incision and chest tube area have healed-no more scabs.  The incision is still pink and raised, but they said that once the swelling subsides, the actual scar should only be a few inches long; it curves around her shoulder blade, so it shouldn't be very noticeable, if at all. 

Her future prognosis is good-she'll be able to play sports, dance, whatever, with the exception of activities that place a lot of stress on her heart (i.e. cross country running, power lifting, etc.)  If the cardiologists determine that surgical intervention is needed for the valve issues, she'll undergo full open heart surgery, including the bypass machine.  I know our God is big, and He is in the miracle business.  If it's His will for her to go through those, I trust His Ways.  I choose to believe that Ash has gone through all of this so that all of us, especially Asher, have a testimony to share with the world about the Power and Glory of God.  If her journey leads her more surgeries with more scars and more stories, then those moments will be opportunities for her to share how God gave her the strength to persevere.   Since we've been home, we've been doing  a LOT of praising and worship.  The song that I always revert back to is a praise song we sing in church, "This Is My Story".  Ash's favorite part goes:   "This is my story.  Tell about my Savior, show the world His Love.  I just gotta shout about it, I just gotta sing.  I just gotta let it out, His Love inside of me!"  And that's exactly what we are doing.

This is a display board that was posted in the CVICU area.  It has facts about CHD for visitors and families to see while they are on the unit.  

CHD research is grossly underfunded.  1 in 100 babies is born with a CHD, and CHD is the leading cause of death in infants.  Annually, 1,000,000 babies are born with a CHD, and nearly 100,000 die before their first birthday, and thousands more die before they reach adulthood. (Source:  http://www.childrensheartfoundation.org/about-chf/fact-sheets)  As much as I love to support other charities and children's hospitals like St. Jude and the Shriners, as a "heart mama", I can't anymore.  Those charities have the national exposure for funding and searching for cures.  CHD doesn't.  If you would like to get involved in a worthy cause, but don't know where to start, the Children's Heart Foundation (www.chiildrensheartfoundation.org) and the Arkansas Children's Hospital (www.giving.archildrens.org) are two great places to start. 

Much love, 
Kristin

Psalms 147:3  HE heals the brokenhearted, and bandages their wounds (NLT)

Sunday, February 23, 2014

9 days and counting...

So.  One week and change out, and stuff just got real.  

We've received a call to confirm the MRI on Friday.  I'm guessing that the confirmation call for the surgery will happen sometime this week. 


I'm so grateful for God's wisdom and perfect timing.  This week, He placed a person in my path to minister to me that it's okay to be angry.  It's okay to question.  It's okay to not believe what everyone thinks we should be believing. 


I shared bits and pieces of the conversation with my mom, and she was hit with a scripture to share with me.  John 9:1-3.



As Jesus was walking along, he saw a man who had been blind from birth. (read:congenital birth defect)
“Rabbi,” his disciples asked him, “why was this man born blind? Was it because of his own sins or his parents’ sins?”
(in other words, what did his parents do that was so bad that God would put this on an innocent, sinless baby?)
“It was not because of his sins or his parents’ sins,” Jesus answered. “This happened so the power of God could be seen in him."
Verse 3 is in red in my Bible, so that's from the mouth of my Savior.  I believe that if Jesus were ministering this today, He would look at the disciples and say something to the effect of "Hey, sometimes bad stuff happens to those who don't deserve it.  But you know what?  God's got a purpose for it; He has a plan for it, and He will use the situation to show the world His Glory."

And that, my friends, is what I've been believing since we got the news that Squish isn't a candidate for the heart cath lab.  I never had a solid scripture to stand on, but that's what I've been speaking from the get go.  My mom asked me yesterday if I was believing that the doctors wouldn't have to touch her aortic valve.  I'm not.  I'm believing that if they determine from the MRI that not only will they have to fix her aortic stenosis, but also have to fix her valve, then God's got it.  I believe that if they determine from the MRI that there's miraculously no need for surgery-it was God, and He has had her.  I believe that if based on the result of the MRI that they just need to fix the aortic stenosis, then God's got it.  Bottom line:  God's got it all under control, and He will use Squish AND her situation to bring the most glory to His name, and at the end of it all, she (and we) will be walking testimonies to the awesome-ness of His Will. 

And this, THIS, is what it's all about.  God's got you, Baby Girl!

Tuesday, January 14, 2014

Amazing Grace

Well, here we are, mid January, and still waiting on a phone call.  

I've been feeling a bit beat up, tired, and worn.  I'm sure the same is for Jeremy.  We finally  heard something from Little Rock-they want to do a sedated MRI to see the aortic arch, and to get a better view of her BAV. Now we're waiting for the call to go have the MRI, then surgery a few days later. 

When I say this is the most terrifying thing I've ever encountered, I don't say that lightly.  Somehow, though, Jeremy and I are moving through it.  A dear friend recommended the sermon by TD Jakes called "Trusting God When He Says No".   First of all-whoa at the title!  Second of all, whoa at that sermon!  See, it would be EASY to believe right off the bat that since I'm speaking supernatural healing, and I believe it with all my heart, and no doubt in my mind, that it's going to manifest.  Well...I believed for that when we first got the diagnosis and went through the first echo cardiogram.  Then we had the second, and the diagnosis was even WORSE.  Then her case has been reviewed not by one, but by TWO leading cardiology teams, and that was even worse.  After a while, it became REALLY difficult to sit back and say "I believe in supernatural healing, she doesn't need surgery, blah blah blah."  At that point, I knew my faith had to change, or risk being lost all together.  My prayer wasn't unanswered-it wasn't answered in the way that I wanted it to be.

See, I knew that if I kept believing for no surgery, and we went into surgery, my faith would be irreparably cracked.  Three years ago Jeremy and I were going through a really bad time in our marriage.  I wasn't 100% confident that we were going to pull through.  I was angry at everyone, and especially angry with God.  I know that another crisis of faith would take me down a road that I am not willing to travel, so I had to do some studying, some praying, to figure out WHAT I am believing for.  That brings me to this:

I think I'm in pretty fair company, waiting on God's Will to be done.  The apostle Paul, you know, the guy who wrote 2/3 of the New Testament, cried out 3 times for God to remove the thorn in his flesh, (2 Corin 12:7-9) and Jesus, Son of God, prayed 3 times for God to take the bitter cup from Him (Luke 22:39-44).  That being said, thank God for His grace making me strong in my weakness, because I've begged, pleaded, cried out, prayed more than the 3 times that these amazing men did, and the situation hasn't budged.  That tells me that I've got to line up, and walk out believing that God's will be done, not mine, and HE will provide me with sufficient grace in my weakness.  

So, there's that.  I have people telling me that I need to speak what I want to see, and believe that it will happen.  That's NOT where I am, or what I know I can believe.  No one wants their child to be this sick.  No one wants their child to go through this very invasive procedure.  I sure don't.  So I kind of feel that for me to just sit there and say "I want my child to be whole.  I want my child to be healed.  I want my child to not have any heart problems.  I don't want my child to have surgery." is kind of akin to burying my head in the sand.  Of course, I don't want my child to go through any of this.  I've begged, prayed, cried, pleaded that God take this from her.  And yet, here we are.  

Then comes grace.  New Testament Greek word for grace is charis, meaning "the divine influence upon the heart, and its reflection in life".  What exactly does that mean?  The apostle Paul said it best in 2 Corinthians  12:9 "My grace is all you need.  My power works best in weakness."  When I'm weak, God's grace makes me strong.  His grace gives me the ability to keep moving forward.  His grace gives me the strength to believe that His Will be done in Asher's life, not my will.   His grace gives me the comfort to believe where I am, even when every other person in the world is telling me that I'm not believing the right way, or for the right thing. 

"'Twas grace that taught my heart to fear, and grace, my fears relieved.  How precious did that grace appear, the hour I first believed."   -"Amazing Grace", John Newton

Monday, December 23, 2013

Praising Through the Storm

Our Journey with BAVD and Aortic Coarctation

Psalm 112:7 TLB
She does not fear bad news, nor live in dread of what may happen, for she is settled in her mind that God will take care of her.

Talk about a whirlwind 8 weeks.  

Squishy baby has had a heart murmur since birth.  Her pediatrician initially wasn't concerned with it, but mentioned at her 9-month appointment that if it was still present at her 1 year checkup, we would likely be referred for an echo.  She told us not to worry, that Squish was healthy, thriving; just a tad on the small side. 

Fast forward to the beginning of November.  Asher came down with a pretty nasty upper respiratory infection.  We took her to the doctor, and her pediatrician was alarmed with the progression of the murmur in the two months since her last checkup.  We were scheduled for an echo two days later.  Within hours of that echo, a pediatric cardiologist at LSU Health in Shreveport called us, requesting to see Ash the next day. 

We went to the clinic in Shreveport on November 15.  Dr. Todman, Her cardiologist advised that she has Bicuspid Aortic Valve Disease (BAVD); instead of having a tri-leaflet aortic valve, one leaflet has fused together with another, creating a bicuspid valve.  That issue alone isn't extremely concerning.  He also mentioned that she has an area of narrowing in her aortic artery, near the arch (Aortic Coarctation).  At this point, he mentioned that she needed to be referred to a children's hospital, either in Dallas or Little Rock, for a heart cath lab, to possibly balloon the coarctation.  He then scheduled her for a sedated echo, to try and get a better view of the valve and narrowing.  It was determined then that she had a significant area of 50% gradient narrowing in the artery, and 20% in the valve.  He mentioned again that the valve wasn't the issue, and we likely wouldn't need to do anything with it until the narrowing was at or above 30% at the valve.  He said we needed to prepare for the heart cath to balloon the artery though.  Not a big deal:  2-3 day stay in the children's hospital, then regular follow ups here in Shreveport for the remainder of her childhood.  Great prognosis, minimally invasive, win-win. 

Two weeks lapsed, and we still hadn't heard anything.  I called Dr. Todman's office, and he advised that the cardiology team in Dallas had determined that she was not a candidate for the heart cath.  He told us to prepare for open heart surgery to graft the coarctation of the artery, and also prepare for the possibility of a valve replacement.  Our whole world shook.  I was angry, terrified, and bitter.  All I could do was look at this sweet tiny little girl,  not even a year old, and cry, knowing that this procedure was huge!

Cliff's notes on the procedure:  The surgery itself lasts anywhere from 3-5 hours, depending on what they do.  The heart is stopped, and she will be hooked up to a by-pass machine (READ:  13 month old baby is clinically dead on the table for the duration of the procedure.  Digest that a moment.)  If they don't have to mess with her valve just yet, they may be able to go in under her arms, by removing a rib; if that's not an option, then they will have to open her at her sternum.    Right now, this is scheduled at Children's Hospital in Dallas; however, our insurance is making a stink about it, because Dallas isn't "in network"; they want us now to go to Little Rock.  We're still waiting on the hardship referral to be reviewed and approved.  Providing Tricare approves the hardship request, she'll have open heart surgery on January 15, 2014, three days shy of her being 13 months old. 

Thank God for Jeremy-he has been my rock.  That man is so full of faith-he's believing for a miracle-that this is going to be healed without surgical intervention.  Me-I'm not that faithful, I guess.  I am believing that God's will be done; whether by a miraculous healing, or by Him guiding the hands of the surgical team to bring about healing through the procedure and recovery.  It's been difficult keeping my anxiety and my fear about all of this under control.  I'm still angry.  I can't hear one more person tell me to have faith in a miraculous healing-I know my faith isn't there, so I'm believing in what I CAN have faith in-His Word, His Promise, that He has her. 

If you're the praying type, please pray for our family.  For God's strength, His will.  For strength for our older kids.  For us.  For Squishy.  

Below are some links about her diagnosis:

Caitlyn, Stephen, and Squishy (Asher Elisabeth)

"Praise You In This Storm" –Casting Crowns

I was sure by now
God You would have reached down
And wiped our tears away
Stepped in and saved the day
But once again, I say "Amen", and it's still raining

As the thunder rolls
I barely hear Your whisper through the rain
"I'm with you"
And as Your mercy falls
I raise my hands and praise the God who gives
And takes away


And I'll praise You in this storm
And I will lift my hands
For You are who You are
No matter where I am
And every tear I've cried
You hold in Your hand
You never left my side
And though my heart is torn
I will praise You in this storm

I remember when
I stumbled in the wind
You heard my cry to you
And you raised me up again
My strength is almost gone
How can I carry on
If I can't find You

But as the thunder rolls
I barely hear You whisper through the rain
"I'm with you"
And as Your mercy falls
I raise my hands and praise the God who gives
And takes away

I lift my eyes unto the hills
Where does my help come from?
My help comes from the Lord
The Maker of Heaven and Earth